[coat // cardigan (similar) // skirt (similar) // kicks (also love these)]

I'm always in pursuit of ways to pull me closer to equilibrium (because as you know from me there's no such thing as balance), particularly this time of year. I can imagine that many of you are in my same position in one way or another.  And perhaps, some of my strategies might ring true with you.

start your day off right

These days, this is a tough one for me.  Usually, I'm not one to hit the snooze button, but y'all, I am so tired. The ladies are usually up between 5:30 and 6, but being intentional with my time in the morning really helps me start my day off right. That includes doing a series of morning stretches to get the blood flowing, drinking a cup of hot water with lemon before I hit the coffee, and taking a vitamin C supplement.   Also key to my day, getting ready.  The days that I don't, I find myself less productive and not so much in the groove of the day. 

get outside of your comfort zone

It's a little counter intuitive, but hear me out on this one.  When I am uncomfortable, I seek out things of comfort and fall back into old habits.  My old habits aren't terrible, but often times they are what have contributed the state that I am in.  This year, I opted for something WAY outside my comfort zone.  I signed up for a virtual half marathon.  Yes, you read that correctly.  I don't run. I hate running.  Actually, hate isn't a strong enough word.  I loathe running. I would rather sign up for HSM Core classes for an entire year than run (to be fair, I love the Core classes, but they are the hardest workout I have ever done in my life).  But I need something to reprogram my way of thinking and reboot for what's next. So running a virtual half marathon it is.  Pray to whatever higher being you want for me because I'm gonna need it. (And likely a lion's share of advil & epsom salts because I have old bones and muscles these days)

unplug

I think it's fair to say that we all spend far too much time on our devices.  As much as I love a good instagram feed scroll, I've gotta set it aside and be present.  There's a lot to be said for keeping your devices away from your bedside.  I don't think that I can go that far, but turning them on DND or even further away from your bedside helps. 

carve out time for you

Can we have a moment to discuss this phrase that has become pervasive in today's society, self care.  If we are being honest, I hate the phrase. I think that it can be intimidating and ultimately is something else to add to your to-do list.  It completely over complicates what you really need to do and that is quite simple.  Take a few minutes for yourself every day.  Whether it's 5 minutes to enjoy an indulgence, an hour to work out, finishing a chapter in a book that you've been reading, work on a passion project, or go to the spa.  Just do it.  Be unapologetic about it.  It's not about deserving it, it's about what you need to make yourself feel right, more like yourself, and in a better position to tackle life.  

build your bench

Sometimes we can't get out of our own way.  Often times, an outside perspective if very much needed to refocus.  This can come in the way of honest friends, support systems, and also a special type of someone who falls into both categories.  If you happen to be local to Charlotte, I would highly recommend that you take advantage of what Sarah is throwing down next weekend.  In my experience, some of the most effective ways for me to reboot is to reconnect with people.  People who get me, who make me feel safe, and who are supportive.  These people might not be going through the exact same things that I am, but each have a unique perspective on what they are working with and where they want to go. I can't say enough about Sarah - she's my own life guru and friend, but more than that she's pretty kickass.  Do it (it's a steal) and you won't regret it.

and when in doubt, throw on some color

seriously.  I know it sounds silly and superficial, but you'd be surprised what a little brightness on a dreary winter day will do for you (a la this bright sequin cardigan).

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